I have spent my fair share of time in the diet and fitness world over the last ten years. I have seen and heard just about every ‘rule’ you need to follow or program that promises to get you fit ‘quick.’ I use to buy into those promises hook line and sinker when all I wanted to do was find some sort of way to look like all those ‘fit’ people on the infomercials.
But I have to tell you, I was almost always disappointed with how many RULES I needed to follow to see even the smallest bit of success. Not only that but my God, the intensity I needed to keep up with was no joke. Workouts 6-7 days a week, calorie restrictions, and no treats. Being the people pleaser that I am, I was like “okay- I have to do this perfectly” and so I would set out to follow all the rules. And I usually could. Except, I wasn’t feeling as happy or smiley as those stupid people in the infomercials looked. Sure, I would lose weight or tone up my muscles, but I wasn’t enjoying the process.
After many years of pushing harder and focusing on strict regimes, I hit a wall. This is boring and flavorless. I can’t take my meal plan with me to a party or a restaurant. If I am having trouble doing this, how the heck is anyone else having success sticking to a ‘diet’ or ‘plan.’ My body and mind were burnt out from over thinking food.
Light bulbs went off. THERE has GOT to be a BETTER way.
So I began immersing myself in the world of hormonal nutrition and fat loss. And OH. MY. GOSH. mind blowing information came to light.
I learned almost immediately that the diet and exercise industry is keeping a MAJOR secret from you- They want to keep you miserable, so you keep coming back to buy more from them.
But I am going to let you in on my own little secret- You don’t need them.
Instead, I want you to learn how to enjoy the hell out of your life, eat the foods you love, and create the body of your dreams. And I want you to know, YOUR body of YOUR dreams is whatever the heck you want it to look like, as long as it feels good to you.
So this is where my friends WINE and CHOCOLATE come in.
How many diets or programs have you been on that either banish these BFFs of mine or ‘let’ you have them? But only once or week or in place of your carbs for the day or something?
How did that work for you?
Usually, it didn’t work for me. I would drink the wine, then get the munchies for bread and pasta and pizza. So I’d have both, and usually a good amount of both at that point. Welp, I blew it- I would think.
So I want to share with you this idea of embracing your “Happy Foods” rather than hating on them because they may be able the thing that helps you break your fat loss ‘plateau.’
If you try to be so good and skip the wine or ice cream because it isn’t part of your diet, what aftershocks come from that decision?
- Feelings of missing out
- Jealousy that others can but you can’t
- Dreaming of the foods you have cut out (please tell me I’m not alone in this ha!)
Then what happens after you have those feelings after a few days of being ‘strict?’ For me, I end up diving head first into a carton of ice cream, or I eat a bigger than my head size plate of spaghetti and meatballs. Basically, what I am getting at here is if you restrict these simple pleasures all together- more than likely your brain and body are going to be mad. So then your body is going to compensate by making you find comfort some other way and usually you’re making up for lost time. So instead of moderation, you dive in to fatty over processed foods and throw caution to the wind. Now you really feel gross.
But —If you just would have enjoyed a glass of wine (try not to get over 3 glasses here though) or eaten a serving of chocolate when you first wanted it, that avalanche of over eating could have been avoided.
By avoiding the over eating struggle, you are promoting fat loss.
Remember: Sometimes it isn’t about FIGHTING your cravings, but embracing them.
Embracing them in a way were you allow them in and stop calling them bad names. For example, I always keep ice cream in the house and know if I want it I can have it. Sometimes I want a few bites, sometimes I want more. But because it isn’t a scarcity, I never find myself over indulging in it anymore.
Fat Loss Foods are not a magical category of foods that have their own special grocery isle. They are foods that keep you satisfied but not full, in a fat burning state, and manage your cravings from getting out of hand. To me, chocolate and a glass of wine can do this!
Have you been on an anti-chocolate or wine plan? How did that work out for you? Are you worried that once you start in on a glass of wine or bowl of ice cream you can’t be stopped? You are not alone, I work with a lot of women who are very nervous to allow themselves these foods. If you need help with this, I am here for you.